Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Throwing toys around

January 1st, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Negative Behaviour

When we’ve carefully chosen (and more to the point shelled out for) toys for our children it can be deeply annoying to see them chucking these gifts about or  even breaking them. The art of looking after possessions is one that needs to be learnt. Thankfully the learning process is straightforward!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

LOGICAL CONSEQUENCE

  • Rather than ‘punishing’ your child, deliver – with empathy – a related, reasonable and respectful consequence of his or her  bad decision or misbehaviour.
  • Say with empathy: “It’s so sad, it looks like you can’t respect your toys so I am going to have to put them away until you tell me that you can stop throwing them. Don’t worry, you will get another chance”. And then remove the toys in question.
  • Keep the toys away from your child until s/he  shows that s/he is ready to treat them nicely.

Then you can try:

“I FEEL” MESSAGE

  • We need to tell our children how their behaviour makes us feel, but in a way that they can identify with, rather than feel blamed or shamed by.
  • So make your feelings clear and put them in context.
  • For example “I feel so sad that you are throwing your favourite toys around, I wonder how you would feel if someone else was treating your things this way?”

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Throwing toys around

January 1st, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Negative Behaviour

When we’ve carefully chosen (and more to the point shelled out for) toys for our children it can be deeply annoying to see them chucking these gifts about or  even breaking them. The art of looking after possessions is one that needs to be learnt. Thankfully the learning process is straightforward!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

LOGICAL CONSEQUENCE

  • Rather than ‘punishing’ your child, deliver – with empathy – a related, reasonable and respectful consequence of his or her  bad decision or misbehaviour.
  • Say with empathy: “It’s so sad, it looks like you can’t respect your toys so I am going to have to put them away until you tell me that you can stop throwing them. Don’t worry, you will get another chance”. And then remove the toys in question.
  • Keep the toys away from your child until s/he  shows that s/he is ready to treat them nicely.

Then you can try:

“I FEEL” MESSAGE

  • We need to tell our children how their behaviour makes us feel, but in a way that they can identify with, rather than feel blamed or shamed by.
  • So make your feelings clear and put them in context.
  • For example “I feel so sad that you are throwing your favourite toys around, I wonder how you would feel if someone else was treating your things this way?”

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Throwing toys around

January 1st, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Negative Behaviour

When we’ve carefully chosen (and more to the point shelled out for) toys for our children it can be deeply annoying to see them chucking these gifts about or  even breaking them. The art of looking after possessions is one that needs to be learnt. Thankfully the learning process is straightforward!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

LOGICAL CONSEQUENCE

  • Rather than ‘punishing’ your child, deliver – with empathy – a related, reasonable and respectful consequence of his or her  bad decision or misbehaviour.
  • Say with empathy: “It’s so sad, it looks like you can’t respect your toys so I am going to have to put them away until you tell me that you can stop throwing them. Don’t worry, you will get another chance”. And then remove the toys in question.
  • Keep the toys away from your child until s/he  shows that s/he is ready to treat them nicely.

Then you can try:

“I FEEL” MESSAGE

  • We need to tell our children how their behaviour makes us feel, but in a way that they can identify with, rather than feel blamed or shamed by.
  • So make your feelings clear and put them in context.
  • For example “I feel so sad that you are throwing your favourite toys around, I wonder how you would feel if someone else was treating your things this way?”

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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