Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Terrible Twos – My child says No! all the time

January 6th, 2014 | Short Tips and Quotes | Tantrums

When our children constantly meet our requests with a “NO!”, it can feel more than a little dispiriting. But No! is a powerful word and sometimes little children delight in using it just for the sake of seeing our shocked reaction, rather than because they mean it. Luckily with your help they can learn the power of the affirmative instead!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

POSITIVE REDIRECTION

  • Instead of endlessly repeating “No” to your child (which would reinforce his or her tendency to respond with a “No!”!), try to find an alternative approach.
  • For example, instead of “No! Don’t play with this ball inside”, you can say “Let’s play with this ball when we go to the park, I’ll keep it in my bag so that we don’t forget it”.
  • Or replace ”No, you can’t have this ice-cream now”, with “Yes, you can have a ice-cream after your meal for a pudding, and would you like an apple for a snack now?”

Here is another suggestion:

GIVE A CHOICE

  • Even if children this age can’t always speak, they can point at things and are able to make choices. Allow your children to feel some control over their lives by asking them to choose between two options (that suit you) as often as possible. eg “Would you like to drink in this cup or in that one”.
  •  The more  we empower our children to make choices, the less confrontation we will face.
  • Offering choices is also a good alternative to using No!. For example: instead of saying to your child “No! you can’t do this”, you can say “Instead of doing this, would you like to do this or this?”

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Terrible Twos – My child says No! all the time

January 6th, 2014 | Tantrums

When our children constantly meet our requests with a “NO!”, it can feel more than a little dispiriting. But No! is a powerful word and sometimes little children delight in using it just for the sake of seeing our shocked reaction, rather than because they mean it. Luckily with your help they can learn the power of the affirmative instead!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

POSITIVE REDIRECTION

  • Instead of endlessly repeating “No” to your child (which would reinforce his or her tendency to respond with a “No!”!), try to find an alternative approach.
  • For example, instead of “No! Don’t play with this ball inside”, you can say “Let’s play with this ball when we go to the park, I’ll keep it in my bag so that we don’t forget it”.
  • Or replace ”No, you can’t have this ice-cream now”, with “Yes, you can have a ice-cream after your meal for a pudding, and would you like an apple for a snack now?”

Here is another suggestion:

GIVE A CHOICE

  • Even if children this age can’t always speak, they can point at things and are able to make choices. Allow your children to feel some control over their lives by asking them to choose between two options (that suit you) as often as possible. eg “Would you like to drink in this cup or in that one”.
  •  The more  we empower our children to make choices, the less confrontation we will face.
  • Offering choices is also a good alternative to using No!. For example: instead of saying to your child “No! you can’t do this”, you can say “Instead of doing this, would you like to do this or this?”

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Terrible Twos – My child says No! all the time

January 6th, 2014 | Short Tips and Quotes | Tantrums

When our children constantly meet our requests with a “NO!”, it can feel more than a little dispiriting. But No! is a powerful word and sometimes little children delight in using it just for the sake of seeing our shocked reaction, rather than because they mean it. Luckily with your help they can learn the power of the affirmative instead!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

POSITIVE REDIRECTION

  • Instead of endlessly repeating “No” to your child (which would reinforce his or her tendency to respond with a “No!”!), try to find an alternative approach.
  • For example, instead of “No! Don’t play with this ball inside”, you can say “Let’s play with this ball when we go to the park, I’ll keep it in my bag so that we don’t forget it”.
  • Or replace ”No, you can’t have this ice-cream now”, with “Yes, you can have a ice-cream after your meal for a pudding, and would you like an apple for a snack now?”

Here is another suggestion:

GIVE A CHOICE

  • Even if children this age can’t always speak, they can point at things and are able to make choices. Allow your children to feel some control over their lives by asking them to choose between two options (that suit you) as often as possible. eg “Would you like to drink in this cup or in that one”.
  •  The more  we empower our children to make choices, the less confrontation we will face.
  • Offering choices is also a good alternative to using No!. For example: instead of saying to your child “No! you can’t do this”, you can say “Instead of doing this, would you like to do this or this?”

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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