Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Back talk and being rude towards parents or other adults

January 2nd, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Negative Behaviour |

Of course it is unrealistic for our children to be consistently polite to others at all times. But when we hear them being rude to others (or to ourselves) it can feel mortifying or bewildering. Opening a good line of communication with our kids is always going to be our best tool when addressing their own poor choices in communicating with others.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

”I FEEL” MESSAGE

  • Encourage your child to see his or her behaviour through your eyes. But do this with empathy rather than through blaming or shaming, otherwise the lesson will be lost.
  • For example: “I feel upset that you should want to talk to me/your teacher in this way. How do you think it would make you feel if someone was that rude to you?”.
  • Encouraging your child  to identify with the feelings of the ‘victim’ of their rudeness is a good lesson in empathy.

Here is another suggestion.

PROBLEM SOLVING

  • Once our children have understood how their  behaviour has the capacity to hurt or offend others, they can begin to  work on finding better ways of communicating.
  • Start off by asking your child if s/he can think of another way of addressing the person s/he has offended.
  • You may also find it helpful to add some of your own suggestions.

You can also try this

 “I” STATEMENT:

  • Being aware of what you can control versus what you would like to control, make a statement that you can actually enforce.
  • It needs to start with “I” or “my” (and if speaking for the family or couple, it starts with “we” or “our”).
  • Eg “I give my attention to children who are polite.”

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Back talk and being rude towards parents or other adults

January 2nd, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Negative Behaviour |

Of course it is unrealistic for our children to be consistently polite to others at all times. But when we hear them being rude to others (or to ourselves) it can feel mortifying or bewildering. Opening a good line of communication with our kids is always going to be our best tool when addressing their own poor choices in communicating with others.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

”I FEEL” MESSAGE

  • Encourage your child to see his or her behaviour through your eyes. But do this with empathy rather than through blaming or shaming, otherwise the lesson will be lost.
  • For example: “I feel upset that you should want to talk to me/your teacher in this way. How do you think it would make you feel if someone was that rude to you?”.
  • Encouraging your child  to identify with the feelings of the ‘victim’ of their rudeness is a good lesson in empathy.

Here is another suggestion.

PROBLEM SOLVING

  • Once our children have understood how their  behaviour has the capacity to hurt or offend others, they can begin to  work on finding better ways of communicating.
  • Start off by asking your child if s/he can think of another way of addressing the person s/he has offended.
  • You may also find it helpful to add some of your own suggestions.

You can also try this

 “I” STATEMENT:

  • Being aware of what you can control versus what you would like to control, make a statement that you can actually enforce.
  • It needs to start with “I” or “my” (and if speaking for the family or couple, it starts with “we” or “our”).
  • Eg “I give my attention to children who are polite.”

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Back talk and being rude towards parents or other adults

January 2nd, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Negative Behaviour |

Of course it is unrealistic for our children to be consistently polite to others at all times. But when we hear them being rude to others (or to ourselves) it can feel mortifying or bewildering. Opening a good line of communication with our kids is always going to be our best tool when addressing their own poor choices in communicating with others.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

”I FEEL” MESSAGE

  • Encourage your child to see his or her behaviour through your eyes. But do this with empathy rather than through blaming or shaming, otherwise the lesson will be lost.
  • For example: “I feel upset that you should want to talk to me/your teacher in this way. How do you think it would make you feel if someone was that rude to you?”.
  • Encouraging your child  to identify with the feelings of the ‘victim’ of their rudeness is a good lesson in empathy.

Here is another suggestion.

PROBLEM SOLVING

  • Once our children have understood how their  behaviour has the capacity to hurt or offend others, they can begin to  work on finding better ways of communicating.
  • Start off by asking your child if s/he can think of another way of addressing the person s/he has offended.
  • You may also find it helpful to add some of your own suggestions.

You can also try this

 “I” STATEMENT:

  • Being aware of what you can control versus what you would like to control, make a statement that you can actually enforce.
  • It needs to start with “I” or “my” (and if speaking for the family or couple, it starts with “we” or “our”).
  • Eg “I give my attention to children who are polite.”

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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