Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Refusing to brush hair or teeth or to apply sunblock

January 2nd, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Morning | Short Tips and Quotes |

Hair, teeth, (sunblock in the summer) – are procedures our children have to perform day after day. Sadly each of these presents a classic opportunity for rebellion or just forgetfulness. Fortunately there are effective tools for  making these routines automatic, or at least performed in the spirit of co-operation!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

GIVE A CHOICE

  • “Would you like to do your teeth first or your hair?” Easy to see why this strategy for getting things done is more appealing than being expected to respond to a direct order.
  • Asking children to make a decision is very different to pandering to their every whim. Giving children a choice between two options encourages them to feel, and take, some control over their lives.
  • When children make decisions they go into thinking mode, which in turn helps inform both their immediate and future behaviour.
  • More of a sense of control or empowerment means fewer power struggles. Aka win win.

Here is another suggestion:

“I” STATEMENT

  • Sometimes we just have to lay down the law according to us, a law that we can enforce of course. And the best way we can do this is through an “I” statement, always beginning our non-negotiable sentence  with an “I” or “my” (and if speaking for the family or couple, it starts with “we” or “our”)
  • For example a statement like: “I take children in my car who have brushed their teeth”, or “I take children to the beach who have put on sun cream” shows we mean business.

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These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Refusing to brush hair or teeth or to apply sunblock

January 2nd, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Morning |

Hair, teeth, (sunblock in the summer) – are procedures our children have to perform day after day. Sadly each of these presents a classic opportunity for rebellion or just forgetfulness. Fortunately there are effective tools for  making these routines automatic, or at least performed in the spirit of co-operation!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

GIVE A CHOICE

  • “Would you like to do your teeth first or your hair?” Easy to see why this strategy for getting things done is more appealing than being expected to respond to a direct order.
  • Asking children to make a decision is very different to pandering to their every whim. Giving children a choice between two options encourages them to feel, and take, some control over their lives.
  • When children make decisions they go into thinking mode, which in turn helps inform both their immediate and future behaviour.
  • More of a sense of control or empowerment means fewer power struggles. Aka win win.

Here is another suggestion:

“I” STATEMENT

  • Sometimes we just have to lay down the law according to us, a law that we can enforce of course. And the best way we can do this is through an “I” statement, always beginning our non-negotiable sentence  with an “I” or “my” (and if speaking for the family or couple, it starts with “we” or “our”)
  • For example a statement like: “I take children in my car who have brushed their teeth”, or “I take children to the beach who have put on sun cream” shows we mean business.

[gravityform id=”2″ name=”Has this worked for you?”]

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Refusing to brush hair or teeth or to apply sunblock

January 2nd, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Morning | Short Tips and Quotes |

Hair, teeth, (sunblock in the summer) – are procedures our children have to perform day after day. Sadly each of these presents a classic opportunity for rebellion or just forgetfulness. Fortunately there are effective tools for  making these routines automatic, or at least performed in the spirit of co-operation!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

GIVE A CHOICE

  • “Would you like to do your teeth first or your hair?” Easy to see why this strategy for getting things done is more appealing than being expected to respond to a direct order.
  • Asking children to make a decision is very different to pandering to their every whim. Giving children a choice between two options encourages them to feel, and take, some control over their lives.
  • When children make decisions they go into thinking mode, which in turn helps inform both their immediate and future behaviour.
  • More of a sense of control or empowerment means fewer power struggles. Aka win win.

Here is another suggestion:

“I” STATEMENT

  • Sometimes we just have to lay down the law according to us, a law that we can enforce of course. And the best way we can do this is through an “I” statement, always beginning our non-negotiable sentence  with an “I” or “my” (and if speaking for the family or couple, it starts with “we” or “our”)
  • For example a statement like: “I take children in my car who have brushed their teeth”, or “I take children to the beach who have put on sun cream” shows we mean business.

[gravityform id=”2″ name=”Has this worked for you?”]

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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