Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Lying or Fabricating

January 2nd, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Value Setting

When our children start lying (as many do at around the age of 3) they often do so in the spirit of experimentation rather than deliberate deviousness. When we think that they are lying, we need to temper our response and not confront them, as this would push them to continue lying. We need to try and find out why our child decided to conceal the truth from us without putting too much pressure on them. It is often the case that they lie because they made a mistake and they don’t want to disappoint us by telling us the truth.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue 

This works really well:

SET A RULE

  • Set a rule for the whole family concerning the importance of telling the truth.
  • For example: “In this family we value truth telling above all else”.
  • Do not put rules in the first person, they will be confused with reprimands.
  • Make sure that your child understands that we are setting this rule in the spirit of empathy rather than punishment.

Here is another suggestion:

PROBLEM SOLVING

  • The next step is to find solutions to the problem, together.
  • Explain to your children that you feel disappointed when they lie to you and that it’s really important for them to tell the truth so that you can always trust each other.
  •  Ask your children what would discourage them from telling lies in the future and what consequence should apply if they were to do it again.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Lying or Fabricating

January 2nd, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Value Setting

When our children start lying (as many do at around the age of 3) they often do so in the spirit of experimentation rather than deliberate deviousness. When we think that they are lying, we need to temper our response and not confront them, as this would push them to continue lying. We need to try and find out why our child decided to conceal the truth from us without putting too much pressure on them. It is often the case that they lie because they made a mistake and they don’t want to disappoint us by telling us the truth.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue 

This works really well:

SET A RULE

  • Set a rule for the whole family concerning the importance of telling the truth.
  • For example: “In this family we value truth telling above all else”.
  • Do not put rules in the first person, they will be confused with reprimands.
  • Make sure that your child understands that we are setting this rule in the spirit of empathy rather than punishment.

Here is another suggestion:

PROBLEM SOLVING

  • The next step is to find solutions to the problem, together.
  • Explain to your children that you feel disappointed when they lie to you and that it’s really important for them to tell the truth so that you can always trust each other.
  •  Ask your children what would discourage them from telling lies in the future and what consequence should apply if they were to do it again.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Lying or Fabricating

January 2nd, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Value Setting

When our children start lying (as many do at around the age of 3) they often do so in the spirit of experimentation rather than deliberate deviousness. When we think that they are lying, we need to temper our response and not confront them, as this would push them to continue lying. We need to try and find out why our child decided to conceal the truth from us without putting too much pressure on them. It is often the case that they lie because they made a mistake and they don’t want to disappoint us by telling us the truth.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue 

This works really well:

SET A RULE

  • Set a rule for the whole family concerning the importance of telling the truth.
  • For example: “In this family we value truth telling above all else”.
  • Do not put rules in the first person, they will be confused with reprimands.
  • Make sure that your child understands that we are setting this rule in the spirit of empathy rather than punishment.

Here is another suggestion:

PROBLEM SOLVING

  • The next step is to find solutions to the problem, together.
  • Explain to your children that you feel disappointed when they lie to you and that it’s really important for them to tell the truth so that you can always trust each other.
  •  Ask your children what would discourage them from telling lies in the future and what consequence should apply if they were to do it again.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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