Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

The importance of parents presenting a ‘united front’

November 9th, 2014 | Article | 3 to 6 years | Parenting Styles | Awareness

We all have different ‘parenting styles’; but have you noticed that all too often Mums and Dads end up taking on the role of ‘Good Cop’ and ‘Bad Cop’? At first, this doesn’t sound like such a bad thing; after all, if Mum provides the fun, then Dad can provide the discipline. Surely, this would then create the perfect balance, with our children being able to benefit from both styles of parenting? Well, the reality is that this can actually create more problems than it solves.

We found this article really insightful as it shows the conflict that can arise when we parents fail to present a united front to our children and here is a quick summary:

– It’s not much fun if all you ever seem to do is discipline your children and tell them what they should and shouldn’t be doing. Equally, having your children ignore your requests and not listen to you because they see you as a ‘soft touch’ can be just as demoralising. That’s why it’s so important to present a ‘united front’ to our children, for their sake, as well as for the sake of our spouse.

– If kids hear conflicting messages from each of their parents, it can cause a child to feel as if they need to ‘take sides’, or they may even use it to their advantage by playing one parent off of the other.

– The ‘Good Cop/Bad Cop’ style of parenting also reinforces unhealthy gender stereotypes, which can lead children to think that all males are naturally ‘Authoritarian’, while all women are naturally empathetic or ‘All heart’. This can result in children believing that all men and women should behave in the manner that their gender dictates, which is hardly the message that we would want to give to our children!

Children need consistency, they feel more stable and confident when routines are set in place. So, if the house rules keep changing due to a conflict of parenting styles, this can make your child feel insecure, and weaken the strength of the family unit.

Our new book Kids Don’t Come With a Manual offers several very effective tools to prevent going into the good cop/bad cop role and you can pre-order it by clicking here.

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The importance of parents presenting a ‘united front’

November 9th, 2014 | Article | 3 to 6 years | Parenting Styles | Awareness

We all have different ‘parenting styles’; but have you noticed that all too often Mums and Dads end up taking on the role of ‘Good Cop’ and ‘Bad Cop’? At first, this doesn’t sound like such a bad thing; after all, if Mum provides the fun, then Dad can provide the discipline. Surely, this would then create the perfect balance, with our children being able to benefit from both styles of parenting? Well, the reality is that this can actually create more problems than it solves.

We found this article really insightful as it shows the conflict that can arise when we parents fail to present a united front to our children and here is a quick summary:

– It’s not much fun if all you ever seem to do is discipline your children and tell them what they should and shouldn’t be doing. Equally, having your children ignore your requests and not listen to you because they see you as a ‘soft touch’ can be just as demoralising. That’s why it’s so important to present a ‘united front’ to our children, for their sake, as well as for the sake of our spouse.

– If kids hear conflicting messages from each of their parents, it can cause a child to feel as if they need to ‘take sides’, or they may even use it to their advantage by playing one parent off of the other.

– The ‘Good Cop/Bad Cop’ style of parenting also reinforces unhealthy gender stereotypes, which can lead children to think that all males are naturally ‘Authoritarian’, while all women are naturally empathetic or ‘All heart’. This can result in children believing that all men and women should behave in the manner that their gender dictates, which is hardly the message that we would want to give to our children!

Children need consistency, they feel more stable and confident when routines are set in place. So, if the house rules keep changing due to a conflict of parenting styles, this can make your child feel insecure, and weaken the strength of the family unit.

Our new book Kids Don’t Come With a Manual offers several very effective tools to prevent going into the good cop/bad cop role and you can pre-order it by clicking here.

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The importance of parents presenting a ‘united front’

November 9th, 2014 | Article | 3 to 6 years | Parenting Styles | Awareness

We all have different ‘parenting styles’; but have you noticed that all too often Mums and Dads end up taking on the role of ‘Good Cop’ and ‘Bad Cop’? At first, this doesn’t sound like such a bad thing; after all, if Mum provides the fun, then Dad can provide the discipline. Surely, this would then create the perfect balance, with our children being able to benefit from both styles of parenting? Well, the reality is that this can actually create more problems than it solves.

We found this article really insightful as it shows the conflict that can arise when we parents fail to present a united front to our children and here is a quick summary:

– It’s not much fun if all you ever seem to do is discipline your children and tell them what they should and shouldn’t be doing. Equally, having your children ignore your requests and not listen to you because they see you as a ‘soft touch’ can be just as demoralising. That’s why it’s so important to present a ‘united front’ to our children, for their sake, as well as for the sake of our spouse.

– If kids hear conflicting messages from each of their parents, it can cause a child to feel as if they need to ‘take sides’, or they may even use it to their advantage by playing one parent off of the other.

– The ‘Good Cop/Bad Cop’ style of parenting also reinforces unhealthy gender stereotypes, which can lead children to think that all males are naturally ‘Authoritarian’, while all women are naturally empathetic or ‘All heart’. This can result in children believing that all men and women should behave in the manner that their gender dictates, which is hardly the message that we would want to give to our children!

Children need consistency, they feel more stable and confident when routines are set in place. So, if the house rules keep changing due to a conflict of parenting styles, this can make your child feel insecure, and weaken the strength of the family unit.

Our new book Kids Don’t Come With a Manual offers several very effective tools to prevent going into the good cop/bad cop role and you can pre-order it by clicking here.

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