Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

My child feels she has no friends

December 18th, 2013 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Social Issues |

How heart breaking it can be to hear our children tell us “Nobody likes me!”. And how powerless it can make us parents feel!  But the good news is that when our children open up to us in this way, however distressing their message might be, they are giving us an opportunity to work problems out with them.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

ACTIVE AND REFLECTIVE LISTENING:

  • Your child has just revealed to you that s/he has a problem, so before trying to make things better try to just listen to her or him describe what has gone wrong.
  • As your child talks, carefully show that you have listened to and understood what s/he has to say by echoing it. For example: “I’m hearing that you feel that you are being left out” .
  • At this stage try to avoid making any kind of judgement or don’t wade in with helpful suggestions. What you need to convey right now is empathy, and empathy is all about receptive listening.

Here is another suggestion:

GENERATE SOLUTIONS:

  • Now is the time to offer a helping hand.
  • Having given your child a listening ear, ask if he or she would like help in resolving this issue, and if he or she can think of any ways to improve his or her social standing.
  • Offer your own suggestions too, for example inviting old  friends or new over for play dates, or cultivating interests that others can share.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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My child feels she has no friends

December 18th, 2013 | 3 to 6 years | Social Issues |

How heart breaking it can be to hear our children tell us “Nobody likes me!”. And how powerless it can make us parents feel!  But the good news is that when our children open up to us in this way, however distressing their message might be, they are giving us an opportunity to work problems out with them.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

ACTIVE AND REFLECTIVE LISTENING:

  • Your child has just revealed to you that s/he has a problem, so before trying to make things better try to just listen to her or him describe what has gone wrong.
  • As your child talks, carefully show that you have listened to and understood what s/he has to say by echoing it. For example: “I’m hearing that you feel that you are being left out” .
  • At this stage try to avoid making any kind of judgement or don’t wade in with helpful suggestions. What you need to convey right now is empathy, and empathy is all about receptive listening.

Here is another suggestion:

GENERATE SOLUTIONS:

  • Now is the time to offer a helping hand.
  • Having given your child a listening ear, ask if he or she would like help in resolving this issue, and if he or she can think of any ways to improve his or her social standing.
  • Offer your own suggestions too, for example inviting old  friends or new over for play dates, or cultivating interests that others can share.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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My child feels she has no friends

December 18th, 2013 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Social Issues |

How heart breaking it can be to hear our children tell us “Nobody likes me!”. And how powerless it can make us parents feel!  But the good news is that when our children open up to us in this way, however distressing their message might be, they are giving us an opportunity to work problems out with them.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

ACTIVE AND REFLECTIVE LISTENING:

  • Your child has just revealed to you that s/he has a problem, so before trying to make things better try to just listen to her or him describe what has gone wrong.
  • As your child talks, carefully show that you have listened to and understood what s/he has to say by echoing it. For example: “I’m hearing that you feel that you are being left out” .
  • At this stage try to avoid making any kind of judgement or don’t wade in with helpful suggestions. What you need to convey right now is empathy, and empathy is all about receptive listening.

Here is another suggestion:

GENERATE SOLUTIONS:

  • Now is the time to offer a helping hand.
  • Having given your child a listening ear, ask if he or she would like help in resolving this issue, and if he or she can think of any ways to improve his or her social standing.
  • Offer your own suggestions too, for example inviting old  friends or new over for play dates, or cultivating interests that others can share.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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