Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Biting

January 2nd, 2014 | Defiance | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Negative Behaviour

Biting may seem an appalling way for our children to behave, yet it is quite common behaviour among toddlers. Some kids bite out of frustration, others for effect. The good news is that with a bit of careful handling they will soon find better forms of communication!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

SET A RULE

  • Set rules using the third person and try to keep the statement positive. ”In this house children don’t bite”.-
  • Whilst rules and limits are essential for children and families in general, they need to be set, and explained, in a non-confrontational way.

 Here is another suggestion:

 ‘I FEEL’ MESSAGE:

  • Try to let your child know how you feel without blaming or shaming.
  • For example “When you bite me it hurts very much and I need you to stop doing it.”
  • The “I feel” message allows children to appreciate that their behaviour has an effect on others, which in turn affects themselves.
  • An “I feel” message also encourages a child to learn to identify and empathise with what you are feeling or experiencing.

Then you can try:

GIVE A CHOICE:

  • Ask your child to choose between two options that suit you.
  • In this way, rather than making immediate demands, we can let our children feel a degree of control over their lives by asking them to make a decision.
  • Example  “Looks like you’re in a biting mood. So would you like to bite an apple or the cushion?”  this may sound absurd but it really works!
  • When children are given choices they move from ‘opposition mode’ into ‘thinking mode’, and become interested in listening rather than arguing.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Biting

January 2nd, 2014 | Defiance | 3 to 6 years | Negative Behaviour

Biting may seem an appalling way for our children to behave, yet it is quite common behaviour among toddlers. Some kids bite out of frustration, others for effect. The good news is that with a bit of careful handling they will soon find better forms of communication!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

SET A RULE

  • Set rules using the third person and try to keep the statement positive. ”In this house children don’t bite”.-
  • Whilst rules and limits are essential for children and families in general, they need to be set, and explained, in a non-confrontational way.

 Here is another suggestion:

 ‘I FEEL’ MESSAGE:

  • Try to let your child know how you feel without blaming or shaming.
  • For example “When you bite me it hurts very much and I need you to stop doing it.”
  • The “I feel” message allows children to appreciate that their behaviour has an effect on others, which in turn affects themselves.
  • An “I feel” message also encourages a child to learn to identify and empathise with what you are feeling or experiencing.

Then you can try:

GIVE A CHOICE:

  • Ask your child to choose between two options that suit you.
  • In this way, rather than making immediate demands, we can let our children feel a degree of control over their lives by asking them to make a decision.
  • Example  “Looks like you’re in a biting mood. So would you like to bite an apple or the cushion?”  this may sound absurd but it really works!
  • When children are given choices they move from ‘opposition mode’ into ‘thinking mode’, and become interested in listening rather than arguing.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Biting

January 2nd, 2014 | Defiance | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Negative Behaviour

Biting may seem an appalling way for our children to behave, yet it is quite common behaviour among toddlers. Some kids bite out of frustration, others for effect. The good news is that with a bit of careful handling they will soon find better forms of communication!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

SET A RULE

  • Set rules using the third person and try to keep the statement positive. ”In this house children don’t bite”.-
  • Whilst rules and limits are essential for children and families in general, they need to be set, and explained, in a non-confrontational way.

 Here is another suggestion:

 ‘I FEEL’ MESSAGE:

  • Try to let your child know how you feel without blaming or shaming.
  • For example “When you bite me it hurts very much and I need you to stop doing it.”
  • The “I feel” message allows children to appreciate that their behaviour has an effect on others, which in turn affects themselves.
  • An “I feel” message also encourages a child to learn to identify and empathise with what you are feeling or experiencing.

Then you can try:

GIVE A CHOICE:

  • Ask your child to choose between two options that suit you.
  • In this way, rather than making immediate demands, we can let our children feel a degree of control over their lives by asking them to make a decision.
  • Example  “Looks like you’re in a biting mood. So would you like to bite an apple or the cushion?”  this may sound absurd but it really works!
  • When children are given choices they move from ‘opposition mode’ into ‘thinking mode’, and become interested in listening rather than arguing.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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