Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

My child won’t talk to me

January 3rd, 2014 | Defiance | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes

We’ve all been there. We can tell by our children’s faces that all is not right in their world, but their lips appear to be sealed!  So how do we get our children to talk to us about what’s really on their mind? Answers below!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

ACTIVE AND REFLECTIVE LISTENING:

  • Lead the way into a conversation by saying in a sympathetic voice “you seem to be upset, I’m wondering if maybe someone has said something hurtful to you?” or whatever you think the likely cause of your child’s distress is.
  • If and when your child answers you, start reflecting back what s/he had just said with empathy. For example: “It sounds to me like you are feeling left out at school, that must be upsetting for you”.
  • Avoid at all costs trying to reassure or find solutions to your child’s  problem, at this stage he or she simply needs to be heard.

Here is another suggestion:

“I FEEL” MESSAGE

  • Let your child know how you feel without blaming or shaming.
  • For example:. “When I am given the ‘silent treatment’ I feel a bit confused as to how you feel. But I’m ready to listen whenever you feel ready to talk.” or “When I’ve had a rough morning I often find that it’s difficult to talk about how I feel, but I actually feel much better if I speak to someone about it”.

Then you could try:

SPECIAL TIME:

  • Give your child a limited choice of activities that you know he or she will like (try to offer activities that you can enjoy too).
  • Offering ‘Special Time’ (aka one-to-one quality time) allows an apparently ‘introverted’, ‘sulky’ or ‘shy’ child to feel really valued, and have a space in which to blossom.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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My child won’t talk to me

January 3rd, 2014 | Defiance | 3 to 6 years |

We’ve all been there. We can tell by our children’s faces that all is not right in their world, but their lips appear to be sealed!  So how do we get our children to talk to us about what’s really on their mind? Answers below!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

ACTIVE AND REFLECTIVE LISTENING:

  • Lead the way into a conversation by saying in a sympathetic voice “you seem to be upset, I’m wondering if maybe someone has said something hurtful to you?” or whatever you think the likely cause of your child’s distress is.
  • If and when your child answers you, start reflecting back what s/he had just said with empathy. For example: “It sounds to me like you are feeling left out at school, that must be upsetting for you”.
  • Avoid at all costs trying to reassure or find solutions to your child’s  problem, at this stage he or she simply needs to be heard.

Here is another suggestion:

“I FEEL” MESSAGE

  • Let your child know how you feel without blaming or shaming.
  • For example:. “When I am given the ‘silent treatment’ I feel a bit confused as to how you feel. But I’m ready to listen whenever you feel ready to talk.” or “When I’ve had a rough morning I often find that it’s difficult to talk about how I feel, but I actually feel much better if I speak to someone about it”.

Then you could try:

SPECIAL TIME:

  • Give your child a limited choice of activities that you know he or she will like (try to offer activities that you can enjoy too).
  • Offering ‘Special Time’ (aka one-to-one quality time) allows an apparently ‘introverted’, ‘sulky’ or ‘shy’ child to feel really valued, and have a space in which to blossom.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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My child won’t talk to me

January 3rd, 2014 | Defiance | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes

We’ve all been there. We can tell by our children’s faces that all is not right in their world, but their lips appear to be sealed!  So how do we get our children to talk to us about what’s really on their mind? Answers below!

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

ACTIVE AND REFLECTIVE LISTENING:

  • Lead the way into a conversation by saying in a sympathetic voice “you seem to be upset, I’m wondering if maybe someone has said something hurtful to you?” or whatever you think the likely cause of your child’s distress is.
  • If and when your child answers you, start reflecting back what s/he had just said with empathy. For example: “It sounds to me like you are feeling left out at school, that must be upsetting for you”.
  • Avoid at all costs trying to reassure or find solutions to your child’s  problem, at this stage he or she simply needs to be heard.

Here is another suggestion:

“I FEEL” MESSAGE

  • Let your child know how you feel without blaming or shaming.
  • For example:. “When I am given the ‘silent treatment’ I feel a bit confused as to how you feel. But I’m ready to listen whenever you feel ready to talk.” or “When I’ve had a rough morning I often find that it’s difficult to talk about how I feel, but I actually feel much better if I speak to someone about it”.

Then you could try:

SPECIAL TIME:

  • Give your child a limited choice of activities that you know he or she will like (try to offer activities that you can enjoy too).
  • Offering ‘Special Time’ (aka one-to-one quality time) allows an apparently ‘introverted’, ‘sulky’ or ‘shy’ child to feel really valued, and have a space in which to blossom.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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