Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Bedtime – Not wanting to go to bed

January 1st, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Bedtime |

We all know that the combination of tired child and exhausted parent can easily lead to tears before bed, yet given the right conditions and attitude, bedtime can also be the most special, bonding time of the day between parent and child.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

GIVE A CHOICE

  • Allow your children to feel some control over their lives by asking them to choose between two options that suit you.
  • For example:  “Would you like to go to bed now or in ten minutes?” or “Would you like me to help you up to bed or would you like to go on your own?”
  • Choices empower children and make them feel that their opinion matters. Which in turn makes them more willing to co-operate and see reason.

Here is another suggestion:

 “I” STATEMENT

  • An “I” Statement lets your child know the ‘deal’.
  • It needs to start with “I” or “my” (and if speaking for the family or couple, it starts with “we” or “our”).
  • For example: “I read stories to children who are in bed”.
  • Make sure your statement is one that you can and will always enforce.

Then you could try:

SET A RULE

  • For example: “It is now ‘adults’ time and children need to remain in their room, even if they decide not to go to sleep immediately”.
  • Rules work because they form a very clear guide which can be trusted as well as followed.
  • The trick to setting a rule is to explain why it is there and make sure that it is not confused with a reprimand. So set limits in a non confrontational way by using the  third person.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Bedtime – Not wanting to go to bed

January 1st, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Bedtime |

We all know that the combination of tired child and exhausted parent can easily lead to tears before bed, yet given the right conditions and attitude, bedtime can also be the most special, bonding time of the day between parent and child.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

GIVE A CHOICE

  • Allow your children to feel some control over their lives by asking them to choose between two options that suit you.
  • For example:  “Would you like to go to bed now or in ten minutes?” or “Would you like me to help you up to bed or would you like to go on your own?”
  • Choices empower children and make them feel that their opinion matters. Which in turn makes them more willing to co-operate and see reason.

Here is another suggestion:

 “I” STATEMENT

  • An “I” Statement lets your child know the ‘deal’.
  • It needs to start with “I” or “my” (and if speaking for the family or couple, it starts with “we” or “our”).
  • For example: “I read stories to children who are in bed”.
  • Make sure your statement is one that you can and will always enforce.

Then you could try:

SET A RULE

  • For example: “It is now ‘adults’ time and children need to remain in their room, even if they decide not to go to sleep immediately”.
  • Rules work because they form a very clear guide which can be trusted as well as followed.
  • The trick to setting a rule is to explain why it is there and make sure that it is not confused with a reprimand. So set limits in a non confrontational way by using the  third person.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Bedtime – Not wanting to go to bed

January 1st, 2014 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Bedtime |

We all know that the combination of tired child and exhausted parent can easily lead to tears before bed, yet given the right conditions and attitude, bedtime can also be the most special, bonding time of the day between parent and child.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

GIVE A CHOICE

  • Allow your children to feel some control over their lives by asking them to choose between two options that suit you.
  • For example:  “Would you like to go to bed now or in ten minutes?” or “Would you like me to help you up to bed or would you like to go on your own?”
  • Choices empower children and make them feel that their opinion matters. Which in turn makes them more willing to co-operate and see reason.

Here is another suggestion:

 “I” STATEMENT

  • An “I” Statement lets your child know the ‘deal’.
  • It needs to start with “I” or “my” (and if speaking for the family or couple, it starts with “we” or “our”).
  • For example: “I read stories to children who are in bed”.
  • Make sure your statement is one that you can and will always enforce.

Then you could try:

SET A RULE

  • For example: “It is now ‘adults’ time and children need to remain in their room, even if they decide not to go to sleep immediately”.
  • Rules work because they form a very clear guide which can be trusted as well as followed.
  • The trick to setting a rule is to explain why it is there and make sure that it is not confused with a reprimand. So set limits in a non confrontational way by using the  third person.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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