Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Mealtime – Leaving the table without having finished their meal

December 19th, 2013 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Mealtime |

When we go to the bother of making a meal for someone, regardless of their age, it is very dispiriting to find that he or she won’t sit still to eat it. But children, particularly the younger variety, are natural flibberty gibberts and don’t seem to appreciate the importance of ‘sitting nicely at the table’. But we have ways of making them want to stay…

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

“SET A RULE”:

  • Limits are essential for our children but need to be set in a non-confrontational way.
  • We should set rules using the third person (making them sound less like reprimands) whilst keeping the statement positive and delivered with empathy (so we shouldn’t shout out a new rule during a confrontation with our child!).
  • For example: “The new house rule is: children who want to eat have to stay seated at the table”.
  • Ask your child(ren) – and the rest of the family – to repeat the new rule and ensure that everyone understands it.

Here is another suggestion:

LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES:

  • If after setting the new rule your children still refuse to sit down it will be time to deliver, with empathy, a related, reasonable and respectful consequence (as opposed to punishment).
  • For example:  “You seem not to want to eat any more so now I am going to take your plate away.”
  • The reaction from our children the first time we do this is likely to be quite negative, even outraged, but once they have seen us remove their plate a couple of times, they are far more likely to  remain seated at the table in future.
  • From then on, if they do try to leave the table, you will simply have to ask: “Have you finished lunch/dinner?” And if they haven’t, they will usually sit back down without having to resort to threats and reminders

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Mealtime – Leaving the table without having finished their meal

December 19th, 2013 | 3 to 6 years | Mealtime |

When we go to the bother of making a meal for someone, regardless of their age, it is very dispiriting to find that he or she won’t sit still to eat it. But children, particularly the younger variety, are natural flibberty gibberts and don’t seem to appreciate the importance of ‘sitting nicely at the table’. But we have ways of making them want to stay…

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

“SET A RULE”:

  • Limits are essential for our children but need to be set in a non-confrontational way.
  • We should set rules using the third person (making them sound less like reprimands) whilst keeping the statement positive and delivered with empathy (so we shouldn’t shout out a new rule during a confrontation with our child!).
  • For example: “The new house rule is: children who want to eat have to stay seated at the table”.
  • Ask your child(ren) – and the rest of the family – to repeat the new rule and ensure that everyone understands it.

Here is another suggestion:

LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES:

  • If after setting the new rule your children still refuse to sit down it will be time to deliver, with empathy, a related, reasonable and respectful consequence (as opposed to punishment).
  • For example:  “You seem not to want to eat any more so now I am going to take your plate away.”
  • The reaction from our children the first time we do this is likely to be quite negative, even outraged, but once they have seen us remove their plate a couple of times, they are far more likely to  remain seated at the table in future.
  • From then on, if they do try to leave the table, you will simply have to ask: “Have you finished lunch/dinner?” And if they haven’t, they will usually sit back down without having to resort to threats and reminders

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Mealtime – Leaving the table without having finished their meal

December 19th, 2013 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Mealtime |

When we go to the bother of making a meal for someone, regardless of their age, it is very dispiriting to find that he or she won’t sit still to eat it. But children, particularly the younger variety, are natural flibberty gibberts and don’t seem to appreciate the importance of ‘sitting nicely at the table’. But we have ways of making them want to stay…

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

“SET A RULE”:

  • Limits are essential for our children but need to be set in a non-confrontational way.
  • We should set rules using the third person (making them sound less like reprimands) whilst keeping the statement positive and delivered with empathy (so we shouldn’t shout out a new rule during a confrontation with our child!).
  • For example: “The new house rule is: children who want to eat have to stay seated at the table”.
  • Ask your child(ren) – and the rest of the family – to repeat the new rule and ensure that everyone understands it.

Here is another suggestion:

LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES:

  • If after setting the new rule your children still refuse to sit down it will be time to deliver, with empathy, a related, reasonable and respectful consequence (as opposed to punishment).
  • For example:  “You seem not to want to eat any more so now I am going to take your plate away.”
  • The reaction from our children the first time we do this is likely to be quite negative, even outraged, but once they have seen us remove their plate a couple of times, they are far more likely to  remain seated at the table in future.
  • From then on, if they do try to leave the table, you will simply have to ask: “Have you finished lunch/dinner?” And if they haven’t, they will usually sit back down without having to resort to threats and reminders

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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