Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

‘Over-sensitive’ to ailments and minor injuries

December 15th, 2013 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Whining

It can be very frustrating if our children become hysterical at the slightest trace of blood on a grazed knee. But telling them to stop making such a fuss usually has the opposite effect – prolonged howls. Yet a good old dose of empathy (and reassurance) can often speed up the healing process no end.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

EMPATHY AND VALIDATION:

  • Identify with what your child is experiencing.
  • For example “Oh that must have really hurt” followed by a gentle word of reassurance.
  • For example “It may look bad but I can see that it’s not a serious wound so it shouldn’t hurt for long” or “Would you like a hug or a kiss to make it better?”

Here is another suggestion:

ACTIVE AND REFLECTIVE LISTENING:

  • At least an hour later, actively listen to your child explain his or her fear of injury/illness and reflect the fears back in a question or statement.
  • For example:  “Sounds like the sight of blood makes you feel panicky.”
  • Then, after explaining about the different degrees of wounds and illness, ask your child to reflect on the reality of his or her fears. Don’t be surprised if your  child needs to repeat the story many times in order to ‘process’ the event.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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‘Over-sensitive’ to ailments and minor injuries

December 15th, 2013 | 3 to 6 years | Whining

It can be very frustrating if our children become hysterical at the slightest trace of blood on a grazed knee. But telling them to stop making such a fuss usually has the opposite effect – prolonged howls. Yet a good old dose of empathy (and reassurance) can often speed up the healing process no end.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

EMPATHY AND VALIDATION:

  • Identify with what your child is experiencing.
  • For example “Oh that must have really hurt” followed by a gentle word of reassurance.
  • For example “It may look bad but I can see that it’s not a serious wound so it shouldn’t hurt for long” or “Would you like a hug or a kiss to make it better?”

Here is another suggestion:

ACTIVE AND REFLECTIVE LISTENING:

  • At least an hour later, actively listen to your child explain his or her fear of injury/illness and reflect the fears back in a question or statement.
  • For example:  “Sounds like the sight of blood makes you feel panicky.”
  • Then, after explaining about the different degrees of wounds and illness, ask your child to reflect on the reality of his or her fears. Don’t be surprised if your  child needs to repeat the story many times in order to ‘process’ the event.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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‘Over-sensitive’ to ailments and minor injuries

December 15th, 2013 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Whining

It can be very frustrating if our children become hysterical at the slightest trace of blood on a grazed knee. But telling them to stop making such a fuss usually has the opposite effect – prolonged howls. Yet a good old dose of empathy (and reassurance) can often speed up the healing process no end.

Here is a sample of some of our easy and effective tools for solving this issue

This works really well:

EMPATHY AND VALIDATION:

  • Identify with what your child is experiencing.
  • For example “Oh that must have really hurt” followed by a gentle word of reassurance.
  • For example “It may look bad but I can see that it’s not a serious wound so it shouldn’t hurt for long” or “Would you like a hug or a kiss to make it better?”

Here is another suggestion:

ACTIVE AND REFLECTIVE LISTENING:

  • At least an hour later, actively listen to your child explain his or her fear of injury/illness and reflect the fears back in a question or statement.
  • For example:  “Sounds like the sight of blood makes you feel panicky.”
  • Then, after explaining about the different degrees of wounds and illness, ask your child to reflect on the reality of his or her fears. Don’t be surprised if your  child needs to repeat the story many times in order to ‘process’ the event.

 

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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