We often think that we know best for our kids (and probably do!) but we need to let them make their own decisions when it comes to their friends. They have very important lessons to learn from their friendships and they are much more likely to lean these if we interfere in these relationships. So although it’s important to show interest, it’s equally important not to interfere.

So if our kids encounter an issue with one of their friends, refrain from trying to save them and encourage them to find their own solution as this will help them develop essential problem-solving skills such as resilience and critical thinking. To initiate a problem-solving session, start by actively listening to what your child has to say, and then encourage them to find their own solution to the problem by asking them: “What could YOU do about this?”. Then once they’ve decided on a solution, you simply say “Good luck with your friend, let me know how it goes” as this is a great way of showing interest without interfering.

Remember, kids will only learn the value of true friendship if we give them the opportunity to choose their own friends and navigate these relationships without our input.