Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Sharing The Best Resources & Tools

CAROLE AND NADIM SAAD, CO-FOUNDERS OF BEST OF PARENTING

As the parents of three children, struggling like so many others to find a balanced and effective parenting style, we turned away from all the parenting fads and studied the hard scientific evidence on what really works. The techniques we learnt were so life changing, yet so straightforward, that we made it our mission to convert them into powerful step by step tools and make them available to parents world over. Read more about the philosophy behind Best of Parenting.

Parenting Tip – Why saying sorry is not the best way of making our children accountable

December 1st, 2013 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Parenting tips

When our children’s behaviour annoys or upsets either us in some way, it’s only natural that as their parents we would expect them to say ‘sorry’. This is especially true when our children happen to upset someone outside of our immediate family. So when this doesn’t happen immediately we often have a tendency to prompt our child into apologising in the belief that we are teaching them good manners. However, the reality is that what we are actually teaching them is that we should say things that we don’t really mean in order to live up to social expectations – we are in essence teaching them to lie. Some children also start to think that if they say ‘sorry’ immediately after doing something that they know is wrong, then they can ‘get away’ with anything. The key is to find a way to encourage our children to want to say sorry, rather than simply saying sorry for the sake of it, which we can do in the following ways:

  1. Instead of immediately ‘swooping in’ and making them apologise, give them time to reflect and think about what they have done. Younger children particularly find it very difficult to immediately understand why their behaviour is unacceptable. Giving them simple and clear limits and time to reflect upon and think about what they have done helps them understand the impact that their behaviour has upon other people, so that when they finally do come to apologise, you’ll know that they actually mean it.
  2. Communicate with your child using empathetic statements that encourage them to think about the situation from another person’s perspective. This ability to be able to put themselves in ‘someone else’s shoes’ is an essential life skill that will give them a considerable advantage in life as they grow to become adults.

To discover more about the important role that empathy plays in children’s cognitive and behavioural development, you can read our article ‘Why empathy is the greatest gift we can give our children’ on the Best of Parenting website.

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Parenting Tip – Why saying sorry is not the best way of making our children accountable

December 1st, 2013 | 3 to 6 years | Parenting tips

When our children’s behaviour annoys or upsets either us in some way, it’s only natural that as their parents we would expect them to say ‘sorry’. This is especially true when our children happen to upset someone outside of our immediate family. So when this doesn’t happen immediately we often have a tendency to prompt our child into apologising in the belief that we are teaching them good manners. However, the reality is that what we are actually teaching them is that we should say things that we don’t really mean in order to live up to social expectations – we are in essence teaching them to lie. Some children also start to think that if they say ‘sorry’ immediately after doing something that they know is wrong, then they can ‘get away’ with anything. The key is to find a way to encourage our children to want to say sorry, rather than simply saying sorry for the sake of it, which we can do in the following ways:

  1. Instead of immediately ‘swooping in’ and making them apologise, give them time to reflect and think about what they have done. Younger children particularly find it very difficult to immediately understand why their behaviour is unacceptable. Giving them simple and clear limits and time to reflect upon and think about what they have done helps them understand the impact that their behaviour has upon other people, so that when they finally do come to apologise, you’ll know that they actually mean it.
  2. Communicate with your child using empathetic statements that encourage them to think about the situation from another person’s perspective. This ability to be able to put themselves in ‘someone else’s shoes’ is an essential life skill that will give them a considerable advantage in life as they grow to become adults.

To discover more about the important role that empathy plays in children’s cognitive and behavioural development, you can read our article ‘Why empathy is the greatest gift we can give our children’ on the Best of Parenting website.

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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Parenting Tip – Why saying sorry is not the best way of making our children accountable

December 1st, 2013 | 3 to 6 years | Short Tips and Quotes | Parenting tips

When our children’s behaviour annoys or upsets either us in some way, it’s only natural that as their parents we would expect them to say ‘sorry’. This is especially true when our children happen to upset someone outside of our immediate family. So when this doesn’t happen immediately we often have a tendency to prompt our child into apologising in the belief that we are teaching them good manners. However, the reality is that what we are actually teaching them is that we should say things that we don’t really mean in order to live up to social expectations – we are in essence teaching them to lie. Some children also start to think that if they say ‘sorry’ immediately after doing something that they know is wrong, then they can ‘get away’ with anything. The key is to find a way to encourage our children to want to say sorry, rather than simply saying sorry for the sake of it, which we can do in the following ways:

  1. Instead of immediately ‘swooping in’ and making them apologise, give them time to reflect and think about what they have done. Younger children particularly find it very difficult to immediately understand why their behaviour is unacceptable. Giving them simple and clear limits and time to reflect upon and think about what they have done helps them understand the impact that their behaviour has upon other people, so that when they finally do come to apologise, you’ll know that they actually mean it.
  2. Communicate with your child using empathetic statements that encourage them to think about the situation from another person’s perspective. This ability to be able to put themselves in ‘someone else’s shoes’ is an essential life skill that will give them a considerable advantage in life as they grow to become adults.

To discover more about the important role that empathy plays in children’s cognitive and behavioural development, you can read our article ‘Why empathy is the greatest gift we can give our children’ on the Best of Parenting website.

These are just a few examples of our Best of Parenting Tools. You can find more ideas and solutions to typical parenting challenges in our book ‘Kids Don’t Come With a Manual – The Essential Guide to a Happy Family Life‘. 

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